Month: November 2017

As I began my road to recovery, my doorbell was ringing nonstop. In between my frequent meals and naps, there were flowers, care packages, visitors, and food deliveries. I was overwhelmed with how much love and support I was getting from my friends and family.

“So, when are you planning on having kids?”

As a newlywed, you nearly become numb to this question. It’s totally normal. People are excited that you are now married and expect you to be just as excited as them to move to the next step-making babies! The question comes from such a great, excited, loving place from people. Trust me, I am even MORE excited to make babies of my own than the person asking me, but it’s just not that easy for some and this question can be tough to hear when you’re facing TTC struggles or pregnancy loss. I must say, I’d rather get this question twenty times each day than to hear other comments about TTC.

So I have done a lot of thinking as to why pregnancy loss is something that is so hidden away in the darkness. One (of many conclusions) I have created is that because it’s such a delicate, emotional experience, people have a difficult time responding supportively to it. When you believe deep inside that nothing you can do or say can make a situation better, there is a HUGE chance that something awkward, inappropriate, or unrelated will naturally come out of your mouth.

My surgery and experience was nowhere near immobilizing, but it definitely took a toll on my physical self (lots of bed rest and food cravings…definitely gained some weight, haha!). From the moment I had surgery until my HCG levels reached 0, I had to stop taking vitamins (for risk of interaction with the Methotrexate), no working out (for fear of injury/muscle soreness that could be mistaken for ectopic pregnancy pains), no swimming or baths (to avoid possible infection post-surgery), no bedroom activities (if you know what I mean *wink*)…and SO. MANY. RULES.