Why is it a thing to ask a woman (who just birthed a child) when they are planning their next baby? Seriously, though. It’s only been 8 months since I have not been pregnant and I am constantly asked when I am planning on having “baby number 2.” Why?!
First of all, I have learned that when I make plans (baby-making plans that is), they don’t work out. Therefore, I will never plan anything on a timeline ever again, ha! Second, I try my hardest to be understanding to acquaintances and strangers that ask me this question because I know they are just making conversation, but I started laying it out there to these people and they immediately become sorry for asking. I feel like there should be a rule book filled with conversation starters when people just get married and just have a baby. Let’s be honest, “how’s married life?,” “when are you having kids?,” and “when are you having more kids?” has just become so redundant, annoying, and sometimes uncomfortable. Right?
Here’s my deal…
The moment Kinsley was born, I felt like our family was complete; we were whole. She was a complete and utter miracle and I truly couldn’t ask for more in life. I can’t even imagine life being different from what it is now. I work really hard to live in the present and to be present while understanding that future planning is beneficial in some instances, but not so much others. After recovering from a rough/scary pregnancy and realizing how severe my preeclampsia was, my doctor advised me that getting pregnant again would put me and the baby at an even higher risk than I was with Kins, but it would be doable (especially since they know how to keep a close eye on it). At this point in my life, I don’t want to put another baby at risk when I feel complete in my family, incredibly blessed, and so grateful.
So, I have one child, an only-child. And it might stay that way forever. My husband and I are prepared to raise an only-child who will break all the “only-child” stereotypes. I know so many only-children that break these “spoiled-rotten,” “selfish,” “gets-everything-they-want,” stereotypes. I know it’s possible 😉 If you know how Kinsley came into this world, you know she is full of surprises and strength, so don’t doubt her fooling you for a child with 5 siblings! If we decided in the future to grow our family, we will without hesitation. But for now, we are more than content.
Cheers to the mamas out there that have multiple children, to those that have one child, and a special cheers to those mamas that have sweet angel babies (like us)! However you imagine your family, however you feel complete, is just absolutely perfect!