These next few weeks were quite a blur because of my extreme pregnancy sickness. Unfortunately, I stayed cooped up in the house, mainly in bed, completely useless. However, I found a handful of opportunities where I felt good enough to get out of bed and actually be a human for a little bit. And, you better believe I took full advantage of those times!
The most exciting part of that time was being able to share our news with our parents and siblings. Kyle and I are incredibly blessed to have such supportive families that telling them as early as possibly was so important to us. Last time, we had planned on waiting until after our confirmation ultrasound and putting together something super-cute to make the announcement. Although this was once my dream and what I had envisioned, I couldn’t bear the thought of having to tell our parents about our pregnancy in the ER again. That’s something I never wanted to do. So, to avoid a repeat of last pregnancy, we didn’t plan anything creative or super extravagant, but still wanted to make it special.
For me, it seems as though “less is more” when it comes to pregnancy after a loss. I’m not sure why that is- maybe being cautious, worrying about not “jinxing” it…who knows? It was initially really scary for me to be excited about being pregnant because of all the unknowns and fears I had. I felt as though sharing our news would also help us express more excitement.
We told our parents as soon as possible and wouldn’t have changed how we did it. All we did was a simple conversation to let them know. The excitement, tears, hoots and hollers were everything we could have dreamed of from them. It was really awesome. We wanted to wait for our confirmation ultrasound (6 weeks) to tell our siblings so we had something to show them. We did it via FaceTime and I’d say it was worth it. Nothing fancy, but the reactions were the same (maybe even better) than if we would have done something more Instagram-worthy, haha! I remember being so nervous, but excited to share the moment with each of them. OH! And the reactions of our nieces and nephews were literally everything to us. Adding a cousin to the crew was a pretty awesome surprise for them!
At 9 weeks, I had another appointment for an ultrasound and some blood work…maybe I should say MASSIVE blood work. I really felt like I wasn’t going to have any more blood in my body once they were done with me, ha! Baby K was starting to look less like a bean and more like a baby with a clear head and body formation. So cool! We saw and heard the heartbeat again, got measurements, and even saw movement (that I so badly wish I could have felt)! I was so happy that Kyle was there for that one (since he was finally home from his work trip).
As for the bloodwork and testing during this appointment, I did the usual drug screen, varicella immunity, parvovirus antibodies, cystic fibrosis screening, an OB panel, we also opted in for the SMA (spinal muscular atrophy) test, and another virus-type test called CMV (cytomegalovirus). Now, those things meant absolutely nothing to me before and during this appointment, but you better believe I asked all the questions and got all the answers. It’s amazing what they test for and why they test for it, and in the end, it’s all for you and your baby’s health and safety.
This was also the appointment where I received a sample of Diclegis for the first time, in hopes to help out with my pregnancy sickness. If you missed the details on that, CLICK HERE to read more!
I got the results back fairly quickly to all of those week 9 tests and everything looked great and healthy, so we got to wipe that round of nervous sweat from our foreheads and move forward with being excited! At this point, we were looking forward to hitting weeks 12-14 in hopes the pregnancy sickness would wear off (to later find out this was our wishful thinking, haha!), but we were also just looking forward to getting further along in this pregnancy for the safety of the growing baby.
The doctor also spoke with me about what my next appointment would look like. Because of a few different factors, but my history with an ectopic pregnancy being the main one, I was considered “high-risk.” My next appointment was scheduled at the very end of week 12/beginning of week 13 and would include an NT (nuchal translucency) scan and more blood work for a genetic screener (which also tells you the gender of the baby if you’d like to know…and of course we found this out…so stay tuned!!).
At this point, I was still very uneasy about people around me knowing and super nervous thinking about worst-case scenarios. But I had high hopes that once I hit 14 weeks, things would get much less worrisome and more exciting! Until then, our plan was to hold off on an announcement, embrace my “good days,” and hope for the best!