Sometimes we can’t help but throw ourselves a pity party when times get tough. I’ll totally admit that I love a good pity party here and there. During these times, I typically like to be alone and let myself feel sorry. However, very recently, I have changed my way of thinking and way of [pity] partying.
It is so easy to let yourself feel defeated and alone, especially when it seems as though the saying “when it rains, it pours” pretty much sums up your life. 2018 didn’t have the most positive start for me between another disappointing month of TTC, my mom being in the hospital for 2 consecutive weeks with her health declining to a very scary point, the loss of my horse, and just the stresses of everyday life. Yes, it could absolutely be worse. I know this. I am not sitting here looking for sympathy or for anyone to throw me a pity party (well, because I already threw several of my own, haha!).
What I am trying to do is show you how I finally realized what helps me most in these situations.
Knowing that I’m not alone.
Of course I have always known this, but sometimes you just need that little reminder, right? I get reminders often from so many people who share their stories with me. It’s refreshing. It gives me hope and allows me to focus on giving other people hope as well. I never imagined that in my efforts to help people feel less alone, I would also realize how not-alone I am.
My brother sent me the most incredible gift the other day. He sent me a personalized song he created for me using Songfinch and it was the thing I absolutely needed, but didn’t know I needed it until I had it. The first verse brought me to tears, but also put a smile on my face simultaneously. It’s my new favorite reminder that I’m not alone. In those trying times, I listen to this song and motivate myself to do something other than stay in my head. Whether it be a trip to Starbucks or Target, or a walk with my dog, or a mani/pedi…I do something. I am motivated enough to keep myself going. Hopefully it can be the perfect reminder you need as well.