One saying that I have recently grown to despise is “never look back.” I think that might be the worst advice you could get (or give someone for that matter). I feel as though I am always looking back and reflecting on past experiences because of the life lessons they have taught me. Looking back can be incredibly therapeutic.
Think about it, though. Have you ever felt or wondered “how did I get here?,” “how can I possibly survive more bad news after all I’ve already gone through?,” or “why do I have to experience failure after failure?” Every single question similar to these can be answered simply by looking back. Try it. Look back. Reflect.
Tell yourself how you got here. Tell yourself how you can survive more bad news after all you’ve already gone through. Tell yourself why you experience failure.
I think about this a lot when it comes to my TTC journey (and life in general). I think back to my story: my pregnancy, my misdiagnosis in the ER, my recovery, and my continued courage. The experiences are never ending, really. I am always reflecting on this journey and trying to see that light (the same one I talk about here). I always find it. I can always find the light by looking back.
If you’re having trouble relating, think of past relationships and what they have taught you. Think of sporting competitions that you put your heart and soul into. My dad just retired after nearly 35 years in a demanding, manual-labor job. I can only imagine all the reflecting that he will be doing through his retirement because of those experiences. Think about everything you have been through in life and give yourself a pat on the back.
You are who you are today because of loss, challenges, failures, grief, doubt, and simply being human.
I know I can move forward on my journey because I have the ability to look back at my past and reflect. I suck every bit of light out of my past and use it to shine down on my future. Try finding the positivity in the worst situations and you will find that your optimism takes you so incredibly far.